I have some very dear friends whose marriage is presently in trouble.
My friend (I will call him Sam) has been in deep depression for a number of years now. But recently has left his wife and two children, stating that he has some serious problems with his wife. One of the main contributors of his leaving his wife is the influence of his recently widowed mother, who is interfering with their marriage; he has moved in with her.
My friend Sam's wife recently in her despair has contacted me about the situation with Sam and her. I gave her contact information for Dr. Jay Adam's counseling ministry: http://nouthetic.org
, as well as a contact from a councilor near where she lives that has training from that particular ministry. I also stressed to her that regardless of whether or not Sam joins her in counseling, she can't handle this on her own, so she should consider using this counseling service.
She has asked me to contact Sam and talk to him. Although I intend to do that, I thought I could use both your prayers and any advice you can think of before I do so.
From what Sam's wife has told me of the situation, Sam is not his usual self and his temper is easily set off.
I also know that Sam is not someone who trusts easily, mainly because years ago he went to his pastor about a personal issue and the pastor slammed him. I know personally what this issue was and the pastor was very uncouth in this particular case. Sam was correct to feel hurt by this pastor, but he is wrong to not trust anyone else because of that occurrence.
Thank you in advance.