I'm not the dogmatic type, but I do still believe in truth...I'm sure the rest of you here do too. So here goes: Reformed theology is the right theology. If you go to any of the churches you mentioned then you are commiting yourself and your kids to WRONG teaching. I hate to sound so arrogant, but I didn't make these ideas right, I have just found them so.
I spent way too many years in an SBC church and left because of a terrible anti-intellectualism, bad doctrine (oh the Arminianism!), and the social club atmosphere. When I started searching for a new one I literally exhausted all of them within 30 miles of me and didn't find any that were satisfactory.
I had to go non-denominational to find one that was theologically Reformed and practiced a sound ecclesiology.

I encourage you to read a book called "Nine Marks of a Healthy Church". http://www.lifewaystores.com/lwstore/product.asp?isbn=158134631X
This book will help you know what you are looking for. Only when you find multiple churches that live up to these standards can you then justify choosing between them on terms of personal taste. Your choice in Church is really not like deciding what flavor of ice cream to eat. It's more like deciding what medicine to take for an illness. Religious doctrine is an objective truth claim, some are right some are wrong. Theology really matters.

Sorry to sound so obnoxious but I believe this strongly.