Zoe,
Your position makes man into a robot, the very same thing that the Arminians charge Calvinists with believing! This is what Hyper-calvinists believe.
Also Christ was made flesh, so "flesh" in that sense is not necessarily evil. Our sinful nature, or "old man" is evil, but not our bodies themselves. Christ proved this because he had a real human body and was without sin. A distorted Christianity that was corrupted by Platonic thought teaches this. It is not in line with the truth. Our bodies, if we are Christians, are temples of the Holy Spirit, and God cares so much for our bodies that He has redeemed them and will raise them up one day from the grave.
I am curious, Zoe, what teachers have you been learning from who teach this idea of Adam being made "soulish and fleshly" and by implication evil before the fall?
In Christ, Susan