Janean,
I will certainly be praying for you, your husband, your pastor and your church this week. In the meantime, I was wondering if you have read D.A. Carson's book [i]Becoming Conversant with the Emerging Church[/i]. I know you have read MacLaren's work, but it still might help you organize your thoughts and criticisms more effectively (it would also be good just to hand to your pastor and ask him to read it, then ask him to answer certain definite criticisms and questions the book raises).
There are also a couple of good audio lectures by Carson that you might find useful in a similar way:


What is the Emergent Church?

The Emergent Church: Its Weaknesses


In Christ,

Brad Hammond