Dave--

I agree that we need to be careful of falling into the "trap" of too much socializing and church just becoming a "social club" with no substance, but there is a "trap" the other way. But we should reach out and be friends with our fellow believers and we should develop close, tightnit relationships with our brothers/sisters and especially those new in the faith that we are discipling. If that aspect is not present, there will be an important missing element in a church. Are we not to love each other as Christ commanded us??
In light of being "emersed" in the emergent church stuff for the last year. This is an attraction in that movement - community. Unfortunately the foundation and proper truth is not there. Community is a very important element in the church. When we first started going to the church we're at now, the founding pastor was really into small groups (and with the right content then too!!) and he was always friendly and graciously opened his home for get togethers, bible study, etc. It spurred others to go do the same thing. I think this is a gift - hospitality I guess is what you'd call it. I think at my age now and as a mother I feel more isolated than when I was without kids and single. People around here are so busy with having their kids in all the sports/activities they can that meeting together weekly for bible study takes a back seat. Fortunately the Body of Christ is big and I don't have to just rely on my Church.
Also being just plain real is important. I know I'm really turned off when I think someone is trying to be too "churchy/perfect" like and they are not being their real selves. One can be very committed and teach the correct truth and doctrine and also be real. I think that speaks volumes to those who will listen.