If the man your church is considering for the position of teaching elder is married, then it would be reasonable, in my estimation to consider what their family life is like and the wife does have something to do with that. (1Tim. 3:4) Much grief might be avoided by knowing beforehand if the wife seeks to be a godly wife and support for her husband. Is HE able to rule his house well? or does he live with a woman who considers herself to be a bit of a co-pastor, usurping his authority, belittling him in public and diminish his respectability; or is she a gossip; slanderer; and on. A wife can destroy her husband's ministry by her sinful behavior. She can also be a great asset. Something to consider, I think. Training up someone from within your church would give you that advantage for you would know that family fairly well. Should she undergo the same kind of indepth theological interview as her husband? No. But definitely considered as she must complement her husband's ministry.

The Chestnut Mare