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Pilgrim

You misunderstand me here; or perhaps I am not communicating very well?

It is not that I am not suspicious of people; that is a given as a Calvinist and to be honest, a lot easier. However, me wanting to think the best in people, is only because I want to treat people, the way I want to be treated.

I have been involved in too many conversations over the years, that automatically jump to the worst possible conclusions of what someone is trying to say. Sometimes, it is better to ask for clarification before we make a harsh judgment.

I know from personal experience what it is like when I am either misunderstood, or misrepresented. We must speak the truth; but we must do so in love. That is not always going to be received well; but at least we can do so with a clear conscience.

It becomes not iron sharpening iron; but impugning someone's character when the facts are not known. I have actually done this myself and when I have found out I was wrong, I felt terrible.

I have also been privy to some facts about someone which I was not able to divulge. Where others were making judgements about them, that were based on the information they understood. The consequences were hurtful and not in line with the actual facts in question.

Tom