Thanks guys....the main issue is favoritism, and I believe it's clear I have to grit my teeth and bare it.....

what about having to be cordial and polite, sometimes it's easier to not even acknowledge those who I believe hurt my career chances due to their own selfish and self-serving motives, is it ok for me to refrain from even saying hello out of priciple or would that also be unChristian? I know we need to love our fellow man but we don't have to necessarily like them, right?

thank you for the excellent and thoughful responses, this really helps me!

AC

The mercy of God is necessary not only when a person repents, but even to lead him to repent, Augustine