In the Pentecostal Churches that I attended, though what you talked about certainly occurred.
I also found that in many cases, men just didn't really want to get involved in anything that involved more than maybe ushering, maintenance and social things like going for coffee with the boys, or anything to do with food.
Many women on the other hand, were willing to attend Bible classes held by elders, attend prayer meetings etc...
But come to think about it, what I just described is generally what I have found to be the case in most non-Charismatic Churches I have attended since then.

Can men blame women for things like these?

Tom