I was speaking with a deacon from my old church the other day and he told me that this was his problem with "Calvinism".

If God chooses who will believe and repent and in the end be saved, is He not forcing that person to love Him? If the persons ABSOLUTE (will/ability to choose)is to choose something OTHER THAN God, and God still chose them, isn't that a forceful act?

I tried my best to answer him, but I do not think I made a very good impression.. Any Ideas?