We are taught to seek godly counsel in our decisions along with prayer and study of God's word. I find your concerns very close to my own. My husband and I have been members of a PCA church here since 2003. It is 2 towns away and a distance for us to be involved. i won't go into detail but many people are having difficulties with our pastor. A new PCA church has just begun in our very town. We are struggling and praying through whether to switch. We have visited and like the preaching. We hate to leave the friends we have made there but would love to meet and worship with believers in our own community. I will pray for your decision. Please pray for us. God Bless