Tina
Although I agree, I have found it very hard to find Churches that check all the boxes, that are important to me.
I currently belong to a Church that checks many of those boxes. They believe in the plurality of elders, and our pastor preaches excellent expository sermons. The elders also lead some good Bible studies during the week.
Unfortunately, although this does not affect me personally, because my girls are 39 and 37.
They pull the children out of the service for children’s Church right before the sermon.

There is one other Church in town that is good doctrinally and the children stay during the whole service and my wife and I attended there for a few months.
However, although the sermons were fairly solid. The pastor was very harsh and called out people during the service.
A few times, it was very inappropriate and the last Sunday we attended there, we had guests with us.
That was one of the most inappropriate services I have ever been to.
After the service, during the drive home. A guest said, “i need to say I respect you, but when we come to town again. If you are still going to that Church, we will not be going with you.”
I hate to say it, and I really did not want to say it. But our guest was correct.

Tom