William,

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I think if someone were to kill my family and then themselves I would want to forgive them lest a root of bitterness spring and trouble me. Forgiveness never violates scripture for a Christian

Are you confusing the absence of forgiveness for vengeance?

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Never take your own revenge beloved, but leave room for the wrath of God, for it is written, "Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord". (Romans 12:19)

Forgiving someone who does not repent and ask for it is futile and meaningless. IMO, it's much like forgiving Bill Grogan's goat for eating your laundry or forgiving the wind for blowing your house down.

Denny

Romans 3:22-24

Denny

Simon Peter answered Him, "Lord, to whom shall we go? You have the words of eternal life." [John 6:68]