The Highway Forums General Discussion Open Forum On Granting Forgiveness

Jacy,

I can tell that you have researched this topic. You have given a comprehensive assessment, and I do appreciate it along with the other fine comments.

I think that we learn a lot of Scriptures by being in certain situations and praying that God will give us the wisdom that we need. Paul said that he had learned to be content in every situation. That word "learned" is key. It's that same with this topic.

For trivial or unintended offenses, we can grant forgiveness without repentance, but for serious offenses, repentance is necessary. Sure, we can forgive everybody of everything, BUT, there will not be a true restoration of fellowship or relationship.

In our family, we have taught our children, that they are obligated to ask for explicit forgiveness, when they sin against another person. Over the years, my wife and I have "learned" that asking for forgiveness, and EXPLICITLY naming the sin, will almost instantly restore the relationship. The Bible says not to "let the sun go down on your wrath," and so we try to keep short accounts with our offenses.