I believe this is a great sadness that ANY person who holds to the faith can come to think they alone are "there".My own church has had its share of this kind of thing.The bible clearly teaches Love for the household of the faith sometimes working that out is not always easy.The point surely is that none of us are in actuality "better" than anyone else, some are more blessed yes.I visited a reformed forum recently and was astounded to read that many of us on here would be classified as unsaved because we did not adhere to this particular doctrine or that one many I may add I have never heard of.Arrogance and chrisian living seem a contradiction to me.Saved by Grace alone not plus this or that.