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hisalone said:
I know this requires you to change what you have always been taught, so I can understand the hesitancy to change your way of thinking.

hisalone, Pilgrim asked you to come up with Scriptural evidence for your position which I also think you didn't do. But what you also now say is that historically the reformed view on this matter is wrong or at least off the line! Here is Article 6 of the First Head of the Doctrine from the Canons of Dordt"

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That some receive the gift of faith from God and others do not receive it proceeds from God's eternal decree, for "known unto God are all His works from the beginning of the world" (Acts 15:18). "Who worketh all things after the counsel of His own will" (Eph. 1:11). According to which decree, He graciously softens the hearts of the elect, however obstinate, and inclines them to believe, while He leaves the non-elect in His just judgment to their own wickedness and obduracy. And herein is especially displayed the profound, the merciful, and at the same time the righteous discrimination between men, equally involved in ruin; or that decree of election and reprobation revealed in the Word of God, which though men of perverse, impure and unstable minds wrest to their own destruction, yet to holy and pious souls affords unspeakable consolation.

How do you reconcile what you say with "while He leaves the non-elect in His just judgement to their own wickedness and obduracy"? It seems to me that your position cannot support such a statement.

Johan