Arminians believe that we are saved by grace alone, and not by works. The CONDITION is that we accept the offer of salvation by faith. Your mother probably will never want to accept Calvinism theology due to their belief that God UNCONDITIONALLY damns certain people to hell.
Two major problems. First, any condition man must fill upon his own dooms him. How does a sinful man overcome his very nature to hate God? Arminians believe Jesus died for ALL but not salvifically. Christs death only brings about an offer and leaves the rest up to mans ability.
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Let it not be thought that the Arminian by his doctrine escapes limited atonement. The truth is that he professes a despicable doctrine of limited atonement. He professes an atonement that is tragically limited in its efficacy and power, an atonement that does not secure the salvation of any. He indeed eliminates from the atonement that which makes it supremely precious to the Christian heart. In B. B. Warfield’s words, ‘the substance of the atonement is evaporated, that it may be given a universal reference’. What we mean is, that unless we resort to the position of universal restoration for all mankind--a position against which the witness of Scripture is decisive--an interpretation of the atonement in universal terms must nullify its properly substitutive and redemptive character. We must take our choice between a limited extent and a limited efficacy, or rather between a limited atonement and an atonement without efficacy. It either infallibly saves the elect or it actually saves none." (Murray, The Reformed Faith and Modern Substitutes, in The Presbyterian Guardian, 1935).
Second, that is a false view of calvinism. Man is condemned by his own sin. I would recommend further study.
